Maria Kang, a mother of 3 and fitness blogger, has been getting a ton of backlash for posting a photo of herself showing off her scantily clad, yet toned physique alongside her 3 young boys with the above caption: What’s YOUR excuse?
Although intended to be inspirational, the photo seemed to rub many people the wrong way and Kang received a barrage of negative comments. In response, she posted the following “apology” on her Facebook page, which has since received over 16 million views:
What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them.
Perhaps Ms. Kang’s choice of words may have been a bit harsh, and rather than dousing the fire she fanned the flame. Yet should she really have to apologize when her original intention was to inspire and motivate? Have you ever watched Jillian Michael’s on the Biggest Loser? She isn’t exactly all roses and cupcakes when she’s trying to push people through to get better results.
As a mother of 3 young children (the youngest being 8 months old when she took the photo) as well as running two successful businesses, Maria’s message was that if she could find the time, others could too. Is that to say that fitness and a 6 six pack of abs should be everyone’s priority? No. Is it saying that only fit women can be beautiful? Of course not. She is simply showing that she had a goal, and despite other obstacles, was able to accomplish it.
Why is it that when we see someone achieving success we are so quick to judge them, or make our own excuses as to why we can’t have the same results? Rather than being inspired and motivated, we become the victim and refuse to take responsibility for our own actions, which in turn gives us the results we are unhappy with.
Rather than looking at the work that was accomplished to get where she is at, they allow her results to be a reflection of their own insecurities, and in my opinion miss the entire point that Mrs. Kang was trying to make.
It’s always annoying when I talk to people about traveling the world and when asked why they don’t travel themselves, an immediate flood of excuses comes: I don’t have enough money, I have kids, I have no one to travel with. These are merely obstacles. If you want something bad enough, there is always a way to work around those obstacles.
Success in any endeavor, whether that be in lifestyle, fitness, wealth, business, or relationships, requires action and persistent effort. I once heard success described as “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” We all have our own ideals and priorities to strive for, and there are going to be obstacles and challenges along the way. These are what help build the character (or muscles) to become who and what we are striving to be, and are just merely part of that journey.
So the next time you catch yourself giving excuses for your own success or hating on someone else for accomplishing their own goals, stop and take a moment to think about the results you currently are receiving in your own life and how happy or unhappy you are with those results. If you are not happy, perhaps it might be wise to take a moment to listen to those who have paved their own way through a similar (or maybe even different journey) and plan and take your own action steps to change, rather than putting them down for accomplishing theirs. What are we? A bunch of jealous high school girls?
To Maria, I say: You Go Girl! Rock on with your bad self!
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