We all get a little frustrated from time to time. Sometimes it’s the weather. Sometimes it’s bills piling up. Sometimes it’s just life, feeling like it’s beating us down. But if you aren’t where you want to be, perhaps it’s not due to bad luck, misfortune, or your finances, but one of these reasons instead.
1. You don’t have a clear target or don’t know the end goal. There’s an old saying. “If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there.” So don’t get pissed off at the road if it leads you to a dead end! Choose a new road, or more importantly, get clear on where you want that road to take you! You can’t get from New York to California if you continue heading South to Florida.
2. You don’t have a clear action plan or directions to get you there. Imagine an architect trying to build a skyscraper without first drawing out a blueprint. There are certain steps they must take when constructing that building or it won’t be a solid structure. It’s like building the top floor, but you have no foundation or supporting floors underneath it. There is an order to things that should be followed in sequence. Remember the alphabet? Start at A, and no matter how many steps it might take, eventually you will end up at Z. And now that you know your ABC’s, next time you can sing with me!
3. You focus on the “No” instead of the “How.” If you are focused on all the reasons why things are not working out, or all of the reasons why you can’t change the situation, then you might need a “howtitude” adjustment. In other words, what can you do? What do you have control over? Take your emotions and disappointment out of the equation. Start thinking outside of the box, or better yet, get rid of the box altogether!
4. You might be stuck in bad habits. Whether that be procrastination, making excuses, staying the victim, or just plain NOT taking the action steps necessary to move forward, if you really want to get something accomplished, you have to start first with your habits. Think of going to the gym. If you are trying to build muscles, those biceps aren’t going to show up overnight. It will require constant consistent action. Some habits are going to be more difficult to change than others, which is why the next point is almost as important.
5. You are not connected to your purpose. In other words your “why” isn’t strong enough. Your “why” is what get drives you and propels you forward. It’s not just the end goal, but the reason behind it, and it will see you through the difficult challenging moments. A mentor of mine used to tell me that if my “why” was strong enough the “how” was irrelevant. Knowing the underlying reason behind your goal puts you in a higher vibration, which allows opportunities and resources that are in alignment with that purpose to attract to you more easily.
6. You might be trying to do it all on your own. There is no such thing as a “self made millionaire.” There is always a team working together. That might be a mastermind group, mentors, joint ventures or partners, or an amazing support team working behind the scenes. You will get to wherever you want to go much faster if you aren’t trying to do it all on your own. Think of a flock of birds, flying in formation. As a group, there is synergy and energy in working together, which allows them to get to their destination much faster. Remember that you don’t always have to be the one leading that formation. Take a break and rely on your team every once in a while. Allow the momentum of the group to keep pulling you forward. You will get there much faster, and have more opportunities to enjoy the journey.
7. You might have the wrong definition of success. Many times when I have been frustrated or feeling stuck, I have noticed that I have been comparing myself to other people who in my mind have already “made it.” The error in doing this is that we never see the process they have gone through to get to where they are or know how long it has taken them to arrive there. We focus on what we see on the surface, instead of the work, sacrifice, or even the difficulties they may still be going through once they reach that status. Instead, focus on your own journey, and celebrate the small successes you have already accomplished. Earl Nightingale once said, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” As long as you have your own “worthy ideal” and are continuing to strive towards it, then by that definition, you are already a success.
So what are some things that are keeping YOU stuck? What action will you take today to start moving forward? Please share in the comments below, and if you like this post, share it with a friend. Let’s start flying in formation together!